Category: Dating and Relationships
I met this guy, and he was annoying. He asked me out after we'd known each other for only two minutes. It didn't make me feel very comfortable. Has anyone had similiar experiences? They don't have to be even similiar. You could just have had an interesting experience. Anyways, let me know what you think.
I haven't but I do hope you said no. Asking someone out takes time, but not two minutes!
Troy
sure have -- a couple of freaks on this site actually! .. not to mention in ther parts of the net!
sunds as if he was desperate and trying to own you, there are some terminally insecure people out there fortunately for you this numpty made it obvious.
ive both encountered those kind of people, and i also know someone who asked a girl out after only 2 days. yikes, i couldnt imagine ever doing that myself!
I'd met 2 guys like that over IM. One was where we'd chatted for like just 2 hours, and he kept asking for my picture and when I could send it. He was also insisting that a relationship would work, using friendship and trust as reasoning for it. But we'd only been chatting for 2 hours! I don't even know why I'd wasted my time on that duy. So anyway, that the end, he finaly agreed that we were just friends, but I've never chatted or emailed with him again; it just would make me nervous. The other was a guy who though we could get married someday. He ws just tell me to think about it, and we'd only chatted 2 or 3 different times. But what got me to block him was when I'd once put myself as away to leave the computer, and he still sent a messsage saying: "Whare are you baby". That really got to me so I blocked him. The weird thing was that up to then, he was cool and interesting to talk to, but yeah.
Leilani
I also thought I'd go thru something like that with 2 other friends, who I still email with. This one guy is cool, but with his 2nd or 3rd email, he started flirting with me. But when I mentioned it to him, he appologized, and although he still does it, I've learned not to take it seriously. He's said he actually likes me/has feelings for me (now that we've known each other for a long time), but we haven't met yet. So we'll see how that goes if/when we meet sometime. Another time was when this other guy had sent me something, well, it sounded more like a dream he might have had about me, but it did sound really romantic. I did blush, but I didn't take that one seriously at all because he'd only done that once, and with all the other emails, we had a usual conversation of how we were doing and things like that.
Leilani
well I think we've probably all been there, not necessarily being asked out within the first few seconds, but the old chat up lines .. I can spot a charmer a mile off.
Well, of course I said no. He was very odd, and when he went back to whereever he came from, he said "good night babe." I was like, "gross!" I have had other similiar experiences like that, but I don't want to go there. Too risky.
I know a woman who was gobsmacked to hear new boyfriend propose marriage on their 1st day together...
I guess it depends thouh on the difference between being chatted up in a big way, and just guys trying to use their charms. There's actually a book you can buy, (and no i don't know where or for how much), which has chat up lines in it. Things like ... that dress looks really good on you, but it would look even better on my bedroom floor, and ... get your coat, you've pulled ... sleeze or what .. but it's a sad fact that some guys actually use such lines..
Anyone that has the time to write a book on that has a bit too much time on there hands, in my personal opinion. For the record, if I ever use a pick up line on *anyone, please shoot me. lol
ah that's as maybe, but think of the money they probably made f from it
think of the poor feckers who need that kind of help
Oh I've seen a lot of lines from that book. I honnestly think they're made up to be funny more than for their actual effectiveness <grin> I really doubt any of these lines would work very much, unless the woman was drunk, already attracted to you, or both .. and the chances are once you use one of these lines you wil scare her away <grin>
cheers
-B
I don't think any amount of alcohol in the world would get me to fall for ... get your coat you've pulled .. grin.
think is, if a guy is genuin, he wouldn't need any of that superficial crap in order to get places.
That is so very true.
For guys, the only book I would recommend getting advice from would be David DeAngelo's series titled "Double Your Dating". It can be found at www.doubleyourdating.net. I've never seen any CD's or books as good as his.
Chet
Yeah, I did. I once met a guy on the internet, we wrote a lot of small emails, it was just like chatting. And suddenly, after one day only, he said he fell in love with me. (that was about one and a half years before now).
God, so many I'm not even going to count. Mostly over the zone and FC, but also via other internet sites. They talk to you for a couple of hours or in the best cases a couple of days and then they want to meet you, have siber sex with you, initiate phone sex, internet date you and in one especially creepy case they brought the conversation around to what it would be like if we were to get married. It's a little annoying, a bit frightening, but even more so depressing. Let me give you an example, if you are told by someone, "You have a lovely voice." or "That was amazing chocolate truffle cake you made." only to find that they have complimented the singing voice of a friend who can't carry a tune in a bucket, or that they have praised the cooking of another friend who regularly sets off the smoke detector and or gives their dinner guests food poisoning you feel undervalued. If a guy shows a real interest in you, you feel flattered, special, appreciated, but when he acts desperate, I.E. jumping into wanting a relationship with out ever meeting you or with out knowing you at all it makes you feel cheep, worthless and minimalized. If a quality guy shows interest I feel great, but I'd rather have no male attention at all then get the interest of a pathetic looser. I know that's a little harsh, but it's how I feel.
I recently had another experience like several weeks ago, speaking of cyber sex. Someone had found (or possibly already had) my email/messenger address), I'll never know because he seemed to miss or just ignore pretty much everything I had typed toward him. Anyway, I ha added him because I was curious as to who he was, being that I had put no info and in fact really don't have an MSN profile. Anyway, so he had been so happy (apparently) that I had accepted him and told me he was feeling horny, and after I told him that I didn't do that kind of thing (cyber) and didn't even believe in sex before marriage, he went on to inform me that he had a sex show with this girl and that I was welcome to join them. It's crazy how people can (to me) have so little respect for themselves and another person. But yeah.
"ha" should have been "had". Sorry.NVDA
I have that kind of shit happen all the time to me on skype. Apparently, the fact that I have a boyfriend so am not interested or the one about me being blind so I can't see them doesn't seem to matter. My favourite was the Egyptian who, after a few minutes speaking, said that he wanted me to marry him! He wanted the marriage for U.S. citizenship, and of course, I said no. But I was bored and had time on my hands, so continued to speak with him. So after awhile, he said that he wanted me to send him money and sponsor him! Um, I didn't even know him! He came back to me a few months later and I told him basically that he entertained my friends and I because we laughed at his story all the time. then, I had this other guy "oh, I love you. You're the love of my life, I'll do anything for you" and on and on. Some people are just so stupid!
oh yah we've all been their one time or another, the very first day like logged in this site I was only talking talk a guy just conversing and all ready he wanting my personally info, all I want to do on here is make friends, that was my first time ever talking to people on line nad when that happend it made me think a little more about logging in all together
*cough* unfortunately, I have met Lutherk or James on here.